Q: I lost my beloved partner just recently.
I can hardly eat because of grief.
What would you say about loss, and about death, MARTH?

MARTH:
Death and loss of the beloved, and our own death. The loss of self… I feel there are only two possibilities to overcome them. One thing is, to realize this world is not real… This world is not a reality. It is some kind of manifestation of Atman. We can call it God. We will get rid of death if we find this world is unknown and mystical place, neither a reality nor this world is certain, definite in a scientific way.

If it is not this world, there is the other world. To die or to lose somewhere like the other world… Are we really able to die in the other world? Or, do we dream of something like a dream? Do we see an illusion as if we were dead or have lost a beloved? I feel we cannot die in the other world if this world is not this world but the other world. And we will allow us to change eternally with such awareness…

Another possibility we need to realize is that everything is connected as one. Is there any death if everything is connected as one? A man lives in an illusion of the ego. It is not the true self. The true self is no self. It is one being. However, we live our lives believing in the ego. And we started to believe in languages and naming during our childhood. Everything on the earth has a name.

It separates us from the truth; everything is connected as one. We are obliged to feel separated because of names although everything is connected as one in reality. It is neither true nor essential, but it is a belief of the ego. It is an idea of the ego. The reality is that everything is unknown, connected as one. This world is not real, but unknown and mystical. We are forever connected as one…
What does it mean that some part dies within the whole existence? Or are we really separate from it? Some part of the existence is dead, it is gone. However, it is eternally changing one being… And this world may not be a reality, either… When we realize it profoundly, we will enter into the eternity beyond death. The ego will not remain after death. It is an illusion from the beginning. That’s the reason why we suffer when we live in an illusion of the ego. It is because only the ego knows death. And when we live with the ego, our heart will be broken. This is the reason why successful people who live with the ego will all lose in the end…

We need to live with the true self if we want to really succeed, to really prosper and to really become wealthy within this unknown and mystical world. That is, we are in the world of oneness, unknown and mystical place.
When we realize that everything is connected as one, we are in incredibly mystical space, and that it is not this world but the other world, we will be able to overcome death and separation…
There is no separation between the self and the other, and the beloved. We are eternally one connected being. We need to realize we are connected with everything (love) to overcome death. And we will be truly healed when we realize that it is not this world but unknown and mystical. Such awareness is more necessary than anything…

MARTH